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A Hindu alternative to Valentine's Day? 'Shiv-Parvati was first love marriage in Universe'

The other day, I was searching on Google a quote on Maha Shivratri which I wanted to send to someone, a confirmed Shiv Bhakt, quite close to me -- with an underlying message to act positively instead of being negative. On top of the search, I chanced upon an article in, imagine!, a Nashik Corporation site which offered me something very unusual. 
I don't know who owns this site, for there is nothing on it in the About Us link. It merely says, the Nashik Corporation site  "is an educational and news website of the municipal corporation. Today, education and payment of tax are completely online."
It goes on to add, "So we provide some of the latest information about Property Tax, Water Tax, Marriage Certificate, Caste Certificate, etc. So all taxpayer can get all information of their municipal in a single place.some facts about legal and financial issues that different city corporations face, but I was least interested in them." 
Surely, this didn't interest me. I was left wondering: why was this site interested in telling its readers what's Maha Shivratri about?
I set my curiosity aside, and clicked on what interested me in the site. It was an assertion which came less than a week after the Valentine's Day -- that "Shiva and Parvati are known as the first love marriage couple in the universe, as per Hindu mythology." Apparently released on the Maha Shivratri day, which fell on February 18, it notes, "The love story of Shiv-Parvati is called Maha Shivratri, the day of love, and this union of love is called Maha Shivratri, which we celebrate every year as Mahaparv." 
Claimed to have been released "as per our readers’ demand and comments", the article defines love marriage "one which is driven solely by the couple, with or without consent of their parents, as opposed to arranged marriage." It adds, "While there is no clear definition of love marriage, the term was in common use globally during the Victorian era."
It appears to regret: that while "love marriage in European countries showed a peak from the 15-16th century, but in India and other Asian countries, it began to happen very slowly." Stating that some research (which, it does not say) "was conducted to find out when the first love marriage was conducted in India", and it was found to be that of "Shiv and Parvati".
The article insists, "The marriage of Lord Shiv and Mother Parvati was not a normal one but rather their definitive predetermination was to change the world’s most prominent romantic tales in a second. They couldn’t measure up to any of the affection sets... After marrying Shiv, Parvati went with him to Kailash and thus a love story going on for two lives had a happy ending."
Suggesting that India scored over Europe in originating love marriage, the article even gives the date, when, apparently, Shiv and Parvati tied into nuptial relationship -- "2350 B" (BC?, I don't know), as against Europe, where the first love marriage occurred about 3500 years later -- "in 1140 AD", about which "Rousseau wrote in his book."
It concludes, "The marriage of Lord Shiva and Mother Parvati was not an ordinary one but their ultimate destiny will be to adjust the world’s greatest love stories in a moment. They cannot be compared to any of the love pairs." 
An effort to come up with an Indian (or Hindu, to be more precise) Valentine's Day? I don't know. 
Be that as it may, I found the much-desired quote elsewhere as I needed it to send across the message to think positive. This is what it says: "May Lord Shiva bless you with patience and a heart to see good in everything! Wishing you all a very happy Maha Shivratri!" 
I modified it little in order to suit my thinking a little and sent it across. Being a some sort of an atheist, instead of Lord Shiva, I said Maha Shivratri festival. Don't know how it was taken, positively or negatively. Expectedly, I didn't get a reply.

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